Ok, so how do you find a girl that has a good high sex drive, but would also treat you like a human being?

Finding a girl with a "good high sex drive" shouldn't really be all that difficult. I understand that you can't (or at least probably shouldn't unless you enjoy a swift kick to the groin) just go up to random women and ask them about their sex drive, especially if you're sober. It's just not a good idea and will make you seem very, very creepy. I've surfed the online dating sites and there are lots of girls out there who specifically advertise their heightened sex drive. There are also online communities designed specifically for this kind of discussion and search. Girls who work out often also tend to have a heightened sex drive. Something to do with heavy breathing and all that sweat, I’m sure.

I think what works the best, though, is finding a younger woman with a very limited sexual background. By younger, I mean someone who might have just graduated from college and is in the process of establishing herself as an independent woman. Look for someone who seems shy but exudes sex appeal. Then get to know her a little bit. As your relationship develops and you become sexually active, she may be willing, but not certain how to proceed. Maybe take her shopping to places where the two of you can purchase things to use together. This has to be done somewhat gradually, or you might end up scaring the girl off. You’ll have a greater success rate if you communicate your wants and desires to someone who you are already friends with or at least who you have a comfort level for.

Keep in mind, too, that in order to be treated like a human being, you need to treat your potential sex-kitten as a human being as well. You can’t treat her like a princess and hold her up on a pedestal, unless you want to live with royalty. That can get old quick. You need to treat her like what you want her to be - a friend and lover. That means give as well as take. If I have to spell that out for you, you need an older, not younger woman!

Another good approach to finding the girl of your dreams, is to establish what my girlfriends and I refer to as a “Tuesday night affair.” It doesn’t necessarily have to be on a Tuesday, but that just happens to be one of our only guaranteed evenings free. The concept behind a Tuesday night affair is that you and your partner get together every Tuesday evening for an evening in. Pretty much, the two of you don’t have a relationship outside of your Tuesday evening, but for all of Tuesday evening you are both 100% each other’s. Anything goes with the Tuesday night affair as long as both parties consent. Kinda like what Paula proposed to Andy in 40-Year Old Virgin. No fuss, no muss foolin’ around.

I'm always so amused by guys who want a sex-kitten to treat them like a human being. It just doesn't compute in my brain. I know you want someone to treat you like a human being, but as long as you don’t pick up freaks or strippers or anyone in the sex business, you're more than likely to meet someone who will treat you like a human being. Besides, come on - be a guy! Appreciate sex for what it is! Don't look a gift horse in the mouth. The rest will, or at least should, come naturally.

Good luck!

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